4 Things Your Wife Wishes You Knew ~ by Keelie Reason
“I think any guy would love to get a step by step guide to understanding their wife. There is no way I can tell you everything your wife wish you knew, but I can give you some insight. Here are the top things your wife wishes you understood.
1. Doing Dishes Really is That Sexy
I’ve talked with countless wives and we have all come to the same conclusion- doing dishes is sexy. Or vacuuming, laundry, wiping down counters…or pretty much anything that provides her help.
Why is this so sexy to your wife? You see her and validate her needs. She needs you to be a part of what’s going on in the house. She needs you to understand the daily struggles she has with laundry or dishes. She needs a break from the pressure she feels to keep the house a certain way.
When you step in and meet these needs, you are being a provider to her. That is sexy on so many levels.
2. Don’t Solve it- Just Listen
Most of the time, she just needs a friend, not a hero. When she is spilling her guts about the difficult things happening in her life, she isn’t asking you to solve it for her. Rather, she just wants to connect with you on an emotional level.
Instead of trying to give her answers or fix it for her, just listen to the things going on in her life. When you start trying to fix it, she will likely feel like you aren’t really listening to her; because you’re not! Instead of listening, you are planning and scheming. She just wants you to hear the way she feels about the situation, not make it go away.
3. Put Your Phone Down
Put down your phone, the remote, the controller, the newspaper, or whatever it is that is keeping you from paying attention to your wife. That is not to say you can’t ever play on Facebook or play a video game again, but if your wife is trying to talk to you, put it down.
Looking down at whatever you are doing while your wife speaks to you communicates, “this is more important than you”. Even if you think you are a great multi-tasker, you probably aren’t. None of us can have deep emotional connections while we are reading the funny papers.
4. Grabbing Boob is Not a Romantic Gesture
A lot of men think grabbing a boob is romantic and will communicate their extreme passion for their wife. Sure, it can communicate that if your wife is in the right frame of mind. However, grabbing a boob at the wrong time is a huge turn-off.
Ask your wife specifically what she considers to be romantic. Don’t use the excuse, “well, I’m just not romantic”. I’m sure you expect your wife to get outside of her comfort zone for you and do things you enjoy, even when she doesn’t. She needs the same thing from you. Figure out how to romance her in a way she’ll understand it.
Is your wife complicated and hard to understand? Oh yes. But when you work hard at studying her, your relationship will grow.”
Article Contributed to Active Manhood by Keelie Reason (Thanks Keelie!)
Keelie is married to her high school sweetheart and is the mom of three awesome boys. She is a creator and loves sharing with the world around her. One of her biggest passions is to help married couples fall deeper in love with one another. She offers free printables to help the marriage relationship. You can read her marriage tips at Love Hope Adventure.