Forbearing and Forgiving
Colossians 3:13 “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
A little boy, being asked what forgiveness is, gave the beautiful answer: “It is the odor that flowers breathe when they are trampled upon.”
The word “forbear” that is found in this scripture means: to show restraint.
The word “forgive” means: to allow room for error.
Combining these two thoughts from our scripture means to restain judgment and allow the error. This is the technical understanding, but the application of it in real life is much more difficult. We like to keep score.
When we have been offended, whether real or imagined, we become convinced of the offense and often hold it against the person who caused the offense. Many times the offended person doesn’t see their own error though, only that of the person they want to condemn.
As biblical men, we would all do well to understand first that we are all flawed, and also that we have relationships with flawed people. If you want to make a list of everyone and everything that has offended, it will be a long list.
Instead, realize that you have been forgiven of much sin and error yourself and that Christlikeness involves forbearing and forgiving others.
Today’s Biblical Manhood Principle: Forbear and Forgive, and don’t keep a list of offenses.